I give a lot of relationship advice for women on this blog and usually I focus on the husband and the wife, but I am officially declaring today “Best Friends Forever Day!”
You see, last week when I was celebrating my first Blogiversary, I thanked a lot of people who were directly related to the creation of this beautiful blog. I did not however, thank my best friend.
Note to self, this is totally like an Oscar speech, except without the fancy dress, George Clooney, or the *actual Oscar*.
When she gently and lovingly reminded me that I did not mention her, I started to ponder best-friendship. And I quickly realized that the reason it didn’t even occur to me to thank her for being part of the blog is that she is like my heartbeat or my white blood cells. I could not function without her. I definitely could not be a great wife or inspire other people or figure out how to use the microwave.
When I was single I would constantly call her just to ask how long to microwave stuff. No, I did not trust the box. Yes, she did laugh. But she always answered. Because that’s what best friends do.
They stand with you on the hard days (like the time some guy dumped me and I called her at 2 am crying) and they laugh with you when you really need to know why Tori & Dean was cancelled and what’s new with Giuliana and Bill. (These are two couples with reality shows. I love these shows because they show real marriages, with love, laughter and tears. They also show famous people with flaws, bad hair days and great foyers.)
No matter how much we love our husbands, they cannot meet every need for human connection that we have. We need our girlfriends to play referee, cheer us up or just debate nail polish colors with.
So besides hereby declaring to the world how much I love and appreciate my best friend, I would also like to point out how having close female friendships is really key to a healthy marriage. If you have a close group of friends, you might know exactly what I mean. If you have never experienced that connection, I invite you to consider reaching out and setting an intention to make a new friend this week.
Since my favorite experts on just about any topic are You, My Dear Readers, I posed this question on our Facebook Page: Besties! BFF’s! Soul Sisters! – Do you have one? Why do you think they are important to a happy marriage?
Here are some of the wise and heart-felt answers:
Yes! however, my soul sister lives 1200 miles away. We text, talk on the phone a lot. It is nice to be able to vent with her – and just have “girl talk.” – Sarah Jenkins <3
I have a few lovely women that I consider to be soul sisters. And yes, they are critical to a happy marriage because they support me in ways that my husband can’t. This was important for me to understand that my husband can’t be “all things” to me. – Christie Inge
I have a few and I if I didn’t have them to vent to and share stories with, I might have a meltdown! – Angela J.F.
Yes. My bestie loves things my husband hates, like watching dumb shows on TV and talking during shows. She also enjoys gardening with me, so he gets a lot out of it! (I don’t talk during watching TV with him… haha, but it’s hard.) – Erin-Ashley Kerti
I have a few. We can vent about our various problems and get different perspectives. Plus girl time. – Tiffany C.C.
I have a group of them! And they are so important because they feed my spirit in ways only a girlfriend can! My husband knows them, loves them, and appreciates what joy they bring to my life! – Rebecca Moravec
I have a Bestie (bff, soul sister) for the past 30 years and she has known my husband since before we were even dating! And I knew hers from before they were dating…when all he was, was a picture. I think it was very important that my husband get along with my bff, and he does! and she is his biggest fan, so YES Besties ARE important, how many times did my Bestie prevent me from “choking” my beloved husband! Too many to count…LOL – Mary H.
I truly believe that the time we invest in our life-long friendships helps us not only stay sane, but bring our best selves to our relationships.
QUESTION – What do you think? Has having a best friend our a group of soul sisters helped your relationship?
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