Love and Marriage – An Interview with Law of Attraction and Conscious Creation Expert Boni Lonnsburry


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Love and marriage can be beautiful when we know how to consciously create positive experiences in our lives. Boni Lonnsburry, author of the book, The Map: To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True is our super special and ultra-inspiring guest today and I could not be more thrilled to share her positive energy and wise words with you!

You know how Amazon suggests books you might like based on books you have already read? Well by some cosmic algorithm, Amazon suggested the book The Map and I read it on my Kindle. (It’s a Paper White and my favorite reading device ever, in case you were wondering.)

I loved reading this book because it wasn’t just about consciously creating your life, Boni shared so many of her personal stories that it’s almost like a memoir mixed with a self-help book. For everything she suggests that we try, do and experiment, she shares her own journey with ups and downs and then gives us “the map” she used to turn her life around.

It just doesn’t get better than that!

If you have ever wondered whether you can use the law of attraction to make your marriage soar – the answer from Boni is a resounding yes!

Read all about it in this great interview that focuses on consciously creating the love and marriage relationships that will nurture us most.

MM: Tell us about yourself in 5 sentences…

Boni: I am an expert in “conscious creation” and I am wildly passionate about the truth that “we create our own reality.”

I went from being jobless, in foreclosure, on the verge of bankruptcy to owning a $5 million a year company in just a few years (and with only a $50 investment) by applying these principles.

I consciously created the love of my life and a beautiful marriage (despite many challenges along the way).

I love that our universe will deliver us anything we desire.

And I absolutely adore teaching others how to apply these principles to their own lives.

MM: Tell us about your latest project…
Boni: My latest project is my best-selling book, which was published last year, “The Map – To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True.

When people saw the transformation in my life, they wanted to know how to do it too.  Many asked me to recommend a book about conscious creation, and although had read many books that espoused the principles and gave anecdotal evidence, none really provided a step-by-step “map” to follow. So I wrote “The Map”.

And its readers have been creating amazing successes working with it.

MM: Why do you do what you do?


Boni: I believe there is ultimately only one reason to do anything: because you love it.

I can think of nothing more exciting than teaching people how to create their dreams coming true.

And when they tell me how their lives have changed because of my teachings, I am filled with even more gratitude that I get to do this work.

MM: One of my favorite management principles is “Stop, Start, Keep” the idea is that there are things we should stop doing, start doing and keep doing that will make us successful. What should we “stop, start, and keep” to make our relationships stronger?


Stop – Stop pretending your relationship is something outside of your control.

You are creating everything in your life, including your most significant relationship—either consciously or unconsciously.

And you can learn how to create it consciously.

StartStart giving the lion’s share of your attention to what your partner does right.

What you focus on expands, so if you focus on what your partner does wrong then the problems will expand.

Make a gratitude list daily about what you love about your partner, and watch those things grow.

Keep – Keep your own growth your highest priority.

The more you grow, heal and change, the better your relationship (and everything else) will be.  

MM: Complete these sentences:

The secret to a happy marriage is… Taking 100% responsibility for it.

You create it all—the good, the bad and the ugly—and when the buck always stops with you, there is always something you can do (inside of you) to make it better (and it’s scarily amazing how others shift when we do.)

What I know is true about love is…It is transformative, it is miraculous, and it is the most powerful force there is. And we—not others—are the ones who create it (and allow it) in our lives.

The single most important thing we can do for the person we love is… To learn to love ourselves. We can only love others to the extent we can truly love ourselves.

The biggest myth about marriage is… That love is all you need. You also need wisdom, and the willingness to heal the reasons why you won’t let deeper love in. Everyone can create a deeply fulfilling love life, but it seldom just happens and it does take work.

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I can create a life I love by… Owning the fact that you do create your entire reality. And then, make the commitment to learn how to create consciously. It is possible for everyone—no exceptions.

What is your favorite thing about being married?

My favorite thing about being married is feeling deeply and truly loved. I never quite felt that way in my first marriage. What changed besides my choice of husband? Me.

What’s the best advice you like to give? How do you apply it (for yourself)?

The best advice I like to give is: You are a spark of divine consciousness. You are divine by your very nature. And in that divinity, comes a gift—the ability to create your entire reality. No fine print. No asterisks. You create it all.

I apply this to my life every single day—by remembering who I am, by dreaming what I desire and by making sure my beliefs (energy and actions) are in alignment with that desire. And my life has transformed from a living nightmare to an amazing dream-come-true. I am not special or any different from you. Anyone can do this. And, believe me, it is well worth the effort!

What is your favorite inspirational quote about love or marriage?

Actually it’s not a quote but a poem. I wrote this when I was in the midst of creating my future (now current) husband. I still aspire to its wisdom:

Two hearts
drawn to ignite
two souls—

Bringing passion,
offering love,
empowering each,
lessening none

Walk together
creating more
than where one
had walked before.

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Boni Lonnsburry is an expert on conscious creation and the author of the bestselling book, “The Map: To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True.” By applying the Universal Law of Attraction to her own life she transformed poverty, loneliness and despair to abundance, love and joy. And now she teaches others to do the same. Learn more at

This week’s LoveWork – per Boni’s wise instructions: Make a gratitude list about what you love about your partner, and watch those things grow.


The Map Book Giveaway

One lucky reader will win a copy of The Map Book, A Creation Journal and a set of 52 Conscious Creation Inspiration Cards! Another lucky reader will win a copy of The Map book! I like to make these easy, so let’s get a head start on our love work – To enter, name one thing you are grateful for about your partner in the comments.

Contest is open in the US only and ends on Saturday, March 15th at midnight Eastern Time.  Winners will be notified via email. Positive Vibes will be sent to all who enter.

(As you can see, I like to have fun with these!) [Can’t wait for the Contest to end and want your own Creation Kit? You can grab one here:

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  1. Jamie English says

    I’m grateful my husband is open to growing our relationship more and more. We’ve been married 21 years and we both enjoy reading of ways to build our marriage stronger (As well as attend events).

  2. Carolyn says

    I’m so grateful that the love of my life loves me so much. Even when I’m in a bad mood, more likely to growl than laugh, he responds with a big smile & a hug & tells me how much he loves me. Even when I wake up in the morning looking like something the dog dragged in, he still looks at me like I’m the most beautiful woman in the world. Because of meeting him, falling in love with him, knowing each day that no matter what happens, he will always love me more than I deserve, I know that I’m the luckiest woman in the whole world, & I thank God for him every day. ♥

  3. Amber says

    My husband had the strength and passion to change careers to something he loved at 32. He now does something he loves rather tham something that took him away from us and he hated. That’s character and showed our kids passion and vision for their own lives. He makes me proud every day.

  4. says

    My husband and I met after both of us had had failed marriages. We both said from the start that we would never get involved again and l would for sure never marry again. Well as you know never say never LOL. Less that a year later yes we were married. My mother was battling lung cancer. He would get up with me avery week and make a 3 hr drive one way before a 8:00 dr appt my mother had and we would meet them at the appointment and then drive back home. This happen for over a year. Then when she lost her battle my precious husband took on my father as his own and has been a better son LOL than I have been a daughter to my father. He is always ready and willing to do whatever needs to be dome to make my father comfortable even if we had to make a 8 hr trip one way to take him home or pick him up to stay with us which was 2 times a month .
    He has been a wonder father to my daughter since her father had gone to be with the Lord. Love you site and will be praying for all the ladies taht read your post :-)

  5. says

    Hey Maggie, I’m so grateful you interviewed Boni. I signed up for her notes upon your recommendation and am loving them!

    One thing I’m grateful for about my hubby is his willingness to grow. Together and individually we’ve both grown so much in the past 11 years of marriage — and always for the better. He has been willing to embrace new mindsets, new opportunities and new ways of being. I’m so proud of him. He even quotes “the Universe” occasionally and we laugh because 5 years ago, you’d never hear him saying that.

    Grateful is my heart for his willingness to be his most amazing Self. He inspires me to keep growing too. Expansion is so sexy!

    Thanks for asking. I feel so much love just typing this.

    Paula xo

  6. Maggie Reyes says

    Oh Ladies! All these comments are so inspiring – thank you for sharing them! For the people who will read them and feel hope and the people who will read them and will renew their belief in the goodness in this world.

    Paula – when I read “I feel so much love just typing this.” My heart got goosebumps. Moments like these are why I do what I do every day. And worth the entire journey. Even the hiccups.

    Thank you all!

    Mountains of Love and Blessings and Scrunchy Hugs!

    The Sentimental Blogger 😉

  7. Brandi B. says

    I’m so grateful that my husband and I met back in Highschool , and that he can and does still deal with me well even after 20+ years together! I’m a bit of a feisty one at times 😉 It’s not always rainbows and butterflies all the time but we work together and get things worked out. Communication is the main key, and I’m so glad he is so willing and wanting to grow old with me. I love this journey that we are on and I can hardly wait to see what the next chapters of our lives are going to bring! Whatever it is, good or bad, it will be easier to deal with or experience with my best friend and love of my life by my side!!

  8. Jill says

    I love how my husband takes care of me an makes time to create special moments between us when things are so busy. He always encourages me to believe in myself. I am so blessed.

  9. Jena Skaar says

    I’m grateful and blessed to have a partner in whom we truly treat ea other as equals and love unconditionally. His family isn’t so great & mine is fantastic & he has jumped in head first and never looked back. I love him more than I have words to describe and look forward to a fulfilling lifetime together.

  10. Debbie Tyler says

    The little things my husband does for me after 32 years of marriage mean more to me than any gift he could ever buy me.

  11. Teresa R says

    I love my husband’s humor. Whether it’s singing a silly song, asking a backwards question or mixing up letters in words, he makes me laugh.

  12. Stephanie H says

    I’m grateful that my husband is willing to work 2 jobs so that I can fulfill my longtime desire to stay home with our littles. It’s not easy to juggle it all, but I am grateful to have this opportunity!

  13. Sharma says

    I am humbly grateful for my husband’s honesty. He’s brutally honest, not in a cruel way, just honest. Which makes my trust in him, automatic. They go hand in hand.

  14. Rachel Clark says

    I am entirely grateful for the past 15 years together with my husband. I love his smile, charm, laughter and being the father of our children.

    Thank you,


  15. Cindy Sal. says

    I am grateful that my husband is such a good person. He’s always there to help out my family members, the neighbors, our friends. He’s a generous and kind-hearted person who is always calm, collected and non-judgmental. I’m so lucky to have him in my life.

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