Love and marriage can be beautiful when we know how to consciously create positive experiences in our lives. Boni Lonnsburry, author of the book, The Map: To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True is our super special and ultra-inspiring guest today and I could not be more thrilled to share her positive energy and wise words with you!
You know how Amazon suggests books you might like based on books you have already read? Well by some cosmic algorithm, Amazon suggested the book The Map and I read it on my Kindle. (It’s a Paper White and my favorite reading device ever, in case you were wondering.)
I loved reading this book because it wasn’t just about consciously creating your life, Boni shared so many of her personal stories that it’s almost like a memoir mixed with a self-help book. For everything she suggests that we try, do and experiment, she shares her own journey with ups and downs and then gives us “the map” she used to turn her life around.
It just doesn’t get better than that!
If you have ever wondered whether you can use the law of attraction to make your marriage soar – the answer from Boni is a resounding yes!
Read all about it in this great interview that focuses on consciously creating the love and marriage relationships that will nurture us most.
MM: Tell us about yourself in 5 sentences…
Boni: I am an expert in “conscious creation” and I am wildly passionate about the truth that “we create our own reality.”
I went from being jobless, in foreclosure, on the verge of bankruptcy to owning a $5 million a year company in just a few years (and with only a $50 investment) by applying these principles.
I consciously created the love of my life and a beautiful marriage (despite many challenges along the way).
I love that our universe will deliver us anything we desire.
And I absolutely adore teaching others how to apply these principles to their own lives.
MM: Tell us about your latest project…
Boni: My latest project is my best-selling book, which was published last year, “The Map – To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True”.
When people saw the transformation in my life, they wanted to know how to do it too. Many asked me to recommend a book about conscious creation, and although had read many books that espoused the principles and gave anecdotal evidence, none really provided a step-by-step “map” to follow. So I wrote “The Map”.
And its readers have been creating amazing successes working with it.
MM: Why do you do what you do?
Boni: I believe there is ultimately only one reason to do anything: because you love it.
I can think of nothing more exciting than teaching people how to create their dreams coming true.
And when they tell me how their lives have changed because of my teachings, I am filled with even more gratitude that I get to do this work.
MM: One of my favorite management principles is “Stop, Start, Keep” the idea is that there are things we should stop doing, start doing and keep doing that will make us successful. What should we “stop, start, and keep” to make our relationships stronger?
Stop – Stop pretending your relationship is something outside of your control.
You are creating everything in your life, including your most significant relationship—either consciously or unconsciously.
And you can learn how to create it consciously.
Start – Start giving the lion’s share of your attention to what your partner does right.
What you focus on expands, so if you focus on what your partner does wrong then the problems will expand.
Make a gratitude list daily about what you love about your partner, and watch those things grow.
Keep – Keep your own growth your highest priority.
The more you grow, heal and change, the better your relationship (and everything else) will be.
MM: Complete these sentences:
The secret to a happy marriage is… Taking 100% responsibility for it.
You create it all—the good, the bad and the ugly—and when the buck always stops with you, there is always something you can do (inside of you) to make it better (and it’s scarily amazing how others shift when we do.)
What I know is true about love is…It is transformative, it is miraculous, and it is the most powerful force there is. And we—not others—are the ones who create it (and allow it) in our lives.
The single most important thing we can do for the person we love is… To learn to love ourselves. We can only love others to the extent we can truly love ourselves.
The biggest myth about marriage is… That love is all you need. You also need wisdom, and the willingness to heal the reasons why you won’t let deeper love in. Everyone can create a deeply fulfilling love life, but it seldom just happens and it does take work.
I can create a life I love by… Owning the fact that you do create your entire reality. And then, make the commitment to learn how to create consciously. It is possible for everyone—no exceptions.
What is your favorite thing about being married?
My favorite thing about being married is feeling deeply and truly loved. I never quite felt that way in my first marriage. What changed besides my choice of husband? Me.
What’s the best advice you like to give? How do you apply it (for yourself)?
The best advice I like to give is: You are a spark of divine consciousness. You are divine by your very nature. And in that divinity, comes a gift—the ability to create your entire reality. No fine print. No asterisks. You create it all.
I apply this to my life every single day—by remembering who I am, by dreaming what I desire and by making sure my beliefs (energy and actions) are in alignment with that desire. And my life has transformed from a living nightmare to an amazing dream-come-true. I am not special or any different from you. Anyone can do this. And, believe me, it is well worth the effort!
What is your favorite inspirational quote about love or marriage?
Actually it’s not a quote but a poem. I wrote this when I was in the midst of creating my future (now current) husband. I still aspire to its wisdom:
drawn to ignite
than where one
had walked before.
Boni Lonnsburry is an expert on conscious creation and the author of the bestselling book, “The Map: To Our Responsive Universe, Where Dreams Really Do Come True.” By applying the Universal Law of Attraction to her own life she transformed poverty, loneliness and despair to abundance, love and joy. And now she teaches others to do the same. Learn more at www.livealifeyoulove.com.
This week’s LoveWork – per Boni’s wise instructions: Make a gratitude list about what you love about your partner, and watch those things grow.
CONCIOUS CREATION KIT GIVEAWAY –
One lucky reader will win a copy of The Map Book, A Creation Journal and a set of 52 Conscious Creation Inspiration Cards! Another lucky reader will win a copy of The Map book! I like to make these easy, so let’s get a head start on our love work – To enter, name one thing you are grateful for about your partner in the comments.
Contest is open in the US only and ends on Saturday, March 15th at midnight Eastern Time. Winners will be notified via email. Positive Vibes will be sent to all who enter.
(As you can see, I like to have fun with these!) [Can’t wait for the Contest to end and want your own Creation Kit? You can grab one here: https://livealifeyoulove.com/conscious-creation-kit/)
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