Touch is one of my love languages.
That’s only one of the reasons I am so excited about today’s post.
First you need to know that this is a sponsored post. My very first. I have been blogging almost 2 years and been approached over and over again about featuring a sponsored post on my blog.
I always say no.
Until Emma and Denis told me about MELT, their video program that teaches couples how to massage each other.
First, who doesn’t love a husband and wife team? They practically had me at hello.
Then I read their site, watched their videos and I knew that what they teach is not only fun, simple and easy, it’s the kind of stuff that keeps relationships fresh.
Date Night? Teamwork? Relaxation? Plus a low cost that anyone can afford and a super-special discount for ModernMarried Readers?
Here is the best part, Emma and Dennis are sharing their step by step instructions on how to give a great massage right here.
How to Give a Massage and Why It Will Help Transform Your Relationship
In any marriage, it’s important to show your spouse love, care, and appreciation and to pamper them every now and then.
It can be as straightforward bringing them a cup of tea in bed in the mornings, or as extravagant as buying them a special gift.
One way my husband and I have found to foster this love and appreciation is by giving each other a decadent massage.
It sounds simple, but the best things in life often are.
By treating your spouse to a massage, you’re igniting a host of different benefits to your relationship:
You’re giving selflessly to your partner.
You’re getting close to them in a very literal sense of the word.
You’re doing something different and new from your usual weeknight routine.
Massage between couples helps to build trust, increase intimacy and bond you to each other.
Doing new things together as a couple helps to re-spark the brain chemistry from when you first fell in love. Spending quality time alone together is so important for your relationship too.
So how do you go about treating your spouse to an incredible massage at home?
Here are a few easy tips to get you started:
Plan Your Night in Advance
Giving a massage will take a little preparation. Pick up some professional-grade massage oil from the drugstore ahead of time. It’s cheap to buy and effective.
You’ll also want to set the scene for the night with some candles, relaxed music and maybe even a little bit of food to nosh on – a fruit platter or some wine is a great mood enhancer.
If you can, keep the massage a secret from your sweetie until the last minute. The element of surprise makes things very special and is a crucial ingredient to a good seduction.
Prepare Your Massage Space
Before you begin your massage, have everything you’ll need ready to go. Once you start, you don’t want to have to break contact to get up and grab a towel or adjust the heat.
Dim the lights, put on your partner’s favourite music, turn up the heat if you need to. Grab your oil and some towels and have them within arm’s reach. Spread out an old sheet or blanket on the floor to stop oil staining your carpet.
We always suggest massaging on the floor, not the bed. The bed is not a stable surface and you can compromise your back by trying to give your partner a massage there.
Instead, seat your spouse cross-legged on the floor in front of you while you kneel behind them. Use a small beanbag footstool or some sturdy cushions to bolster under your butt to take pressure off your knees.
In this position, you have access to your partner’s shoulders, back, neck, head and arms – all prime massage real estate!
How to Give a Massage (That Will Make Your Partner Melt!)
To give a muscle-melting massage, you need to stretch the experience out a little.
The biggest problem we hear from couples about massaging is that they can’t last more than a few minutes without their hands hurting. Other common complaints are that people aren’t really sure what to do, and that they get bored easily.
Instead of trying to go deep and using your thumbs to massage your partner, switch to long, sweeping massage strokes with an open hand. The oil should help you glide over your partner’s skin easily.
Rhythm is an important element of any massage. To help you, try moving your hands in time to the background music.
Once you’ve relaxed your partner with long, rhythmical strokes, you can start to work a little deeper into their tight spots. Think about where you usually hurt on your body; we’re all built the same way.
Seek out inconsistencies in the muscle with your hands and thumbs – you’ll feel crunchy spots, for example, or a tense mass of muscle. When you’ve found them, work them deeper for a few seconds before switching back to lighter strokes.
You don’t need to go in deep for too long; even the most skilled massage therapists aren’t going deep 100% of the time! A few seconds is all you need to create a release in the muscle (keep it short and it won’t hurt your hands).
If you’re still not sure what you should be doing, you can check out our couples massage videos for simple instructions that you can stream right to your TV or smart device. Usually $99, we’re offering lifetime memberships to the program at $39 especially for Modern Married readers, for a limited time.
When you’ve finished your massage, be sure to sit a little longer in an embrace with your partner to gently let them know you’re done and bask in the close connection you’ve just created.
Have you ever treated your spouse to a massage?
Emma Merkas is a relationship expert and the co-founder, along with her husband Denis, of the beautiful Melt: Massage for Couples online video series, which is receiving rave reviews from all corners of the globe. The pair has been teaching couples the secrets of massage for eight years now, and have just celebrated their fifth wedding anniversary.
Emma and Denis believe every relationship deserves a little bit of massage. Lifetime memberships to Melt: Massage for Couples are available for Modern Married readers at 60% off. Get instant access for just $39. **Super Important! the discount ends August 31st, 2014 Midnight Australia time. Do not mess with the international date line! Check it out now and if you love it, get that discount people!**
If you have ever experienced the power of a great massage, please share this post. You never know who might be blessed by having access to this super-easy to follow, wonderfully healing training. And for lifetime access to all the massage training videos for just $39 – click here: Melt: Massage for Couples.
Disclaimer – this post was sponsored by MELT because they want everyone in the world to learn massage. It was published by ModernMarried because two people who love each other learning to touch each other with grace and ease seems like a great idea to me.