I am very lucky to count Susan Hyatt as one of my coaches and mentors.
Her life philosophy is that if you can crave it, you can create it and when she wrote her book, “Create Your Own Luck,” she defined luck as “where consistency of a good attitude, diligent work and clear vision collide.”
She is a shining sparkplug of life, love and wisdom. One of her signature phrases is “less self-helpery and more badassery” and it totally sums her up in an nutshell. She is all about being soulful and loving – and taking lots of positive action to create the life (and love!) you crave in your life.
When she celebrated her 22nd wedding anniversary last year, she wrote a post about marriage that inspired me so much, I asked her if I could share it with all of you and she gave a resounding yes – with a happy surprise coming at the end of this post. (Hint – you know I love a great book giveaway!)
And now for some of my favorite marriage advice from one of my favorite people, I present you:
Susan Hyatt’s Double Decade Marriage Wisdom….
Anyone who says that true love shouldn’t be hard is either lying or an asshole. Or both. Those kinds of messages cause great people to walk away from one other. Which we almost did…once upon a time. But after 22 years together, and 20 of those married, I’m proud of what we’ve built. It’s the kind of love that makes me grateful and weepy and indulgent.
If you find yourself craving connection, romance and intimacy, it’s a good idea to bring that to that table instead of waiting for someone to bring it to you.
I’ve learned how to show others the kind of love that I want to receive. I’m not perfect at it, and I still act like MADEA sometimes when I don’t get my way. But overall, here’s some goodness for you that I am proud to share:
- Believe that you ARE love. There’s no getting it from someone or something else.
- The shit will hit the fan. You can handle it.
- You are not a character from Wuthering Heights, Friends or even 50 Shades. That’s a great thing. You get to be you.
- Ask yourself if you are building connection or destroying it. Stay aware.
- Don’t hide money. But do have your own.
- You are responsible for yourself and how you feel. Yes. You.
- There is always another chance and another way. Love loves resourcefulness.
- Share who you really are. Don’t let someone love only part of you. Or a false you. You deserve to be seen as you magnificently are. Cellulite and all.
- I’m sorry. I love you. How can I make this right? Those words never get old. Say them.
- Here’s what I love about you: ________ Also never gets old.
Real love takes a loving mindset, the strength of an honest to goodness vulnerable human being, and some divine elbow grease. You are it. Spread it.
Susan Hyatt is Master Certified in an elite coaching style, developed by Dr. Martha Beck. Susan was recently named by O, The Oprah Magazine and IKEA as a member of the “Life Improvement Squad” for the next year, to be featured in the magazine, on Oprah.com, and on the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN). Susan is the author of “Create Your Own Luck: Seven Steps to get Your Lucky On” and “Jacked Up on Greens.”
Susan is passionate about helping clients through individual and group coaching, retreats and her writing, to create a life that they love. She lives in Evansville, Indiana, with her husband, two children, and their crazy mob of pets. To find out why she says “life is delicious,” visit her website at http://shyatt.com/.
My deepest gratitude and love to Susan for sharing her no-nonsense marriage advice with us and for her friendship and mentoring over the last few years. One of the reasons I so deeply believe in life coaching is the way my life has transformed from working with amazing coaches like Susan.
Susan generously autographed a copy of her book, “Create Your Own Luck,” and one lucky ModernMarried reader will win it!
You all know I love easy giveaways – to enter hop over to the comments and tell us how many years you have been married and your favorite piece of marriage wisdom – in 5 sentences or less.
Entries close on midnight eastern time on October 18th, 2014 and the winner will be notified via email.
The book is available on Amazon, here: Susan Hyatt’s Create Your Own Luck, 7 Steps to Get your lucky on!
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