25 Secrets to a Happy Marriage


marriage advice for newlyweds

It seems like everyone has different ideas about what makes a good relationship. I say relationships are like fingerprints – all different and all beautiful.

However, if you get a room full of wives together and ask them the secret to a happy marriage, you will find a pattern emerges. There is some humor, mountains of love, lakes of forgiveness and a lot of creativity.

The Secrets to a Happy Marriage are, first, not so secret and second what I loved about this list is that it reflects behaviors. We can’t control the economy or what our boss will do tomorrow or whether it will rain or if the game will be cancelled or if our kids are going to pass, but there is one thing we all have control over and that’s what we think every day and how we behave.

The secrets to a happy marriage have nothing to do with the size of our bank accounts or the kind of car we drive. (Though having two televisions helps!) The secrets to a happy marriage are all (mostly) within our control. Which means they are do-able, implementable, startable.

Pick one, start today. Then pick another one, add it tomorrow. If you feel like one of these is calling your name and you want more of it – take it, hug it and go for it.

The secret to accomplishing anything is to start. Now is always a good time.

Here are 25 Secrets to Happy Marriage by the women of ModernMarried’s Facebook Page.

  1. Say what you mean and mean what you say
  2. Be your husband’s girlfriend
  3. Forgiveness
  4. Remember it’s not about how many years you have been together, it’s about CREATING it ever single day
  5. Laughter and sex
  6. Two televisions (this one made me laugh!)
  7. Not fighting over the small stuff
  8. Respect
  9. Communication
  10. Trust
  11. Love
  12. Showing love through thick and thin
  13. Not looking to be right
  14. Effort
  15. Honesty
  16. Faith
  17. God
  18. Two playstations (for the gamers in the house)
  19. No drama
  20. Lots of hugs
  21. Learning to fall in love every day
  22. Consistent support
  23. Compassion
  24. Kindness
  25. Both of you thinking you got the best part of the deal

secrets of a happy marriage

What would you add to this list? Please share in the comments.

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  1. says

    Ooooh, Maggie. I love ‘Not looking to be right’ and ‘No drama’ as I think they go hand in hand. It took me several years to get past both of them, and our relationship is stronger than ever. I think we mistakenly feel that, when we get married, this is it. We have to remember that we can grow together or grow apart. It’s a choice. I think it’s important to be the one to act and engage in those behaviors that grow a marriage and not accuse or complain or try to change the other person. Start with yourself and beautiful things can happen!

    Hey, or you could get rid of the TV all together like we did. Guitar playing goes very well with reading and/or writing! 😉

    Thank you for compiling this list!

  2. says

    I love this list! I would say that for my husband and I having two tvs wouldn’t make much difference, we typically watch a lot of the same shows and if he’s watching a show that I don’t particularly like, I’d still rather sit with him and work on a craft project or my writing while he watches than go into another room to watch something different. Spending the time with him is more important to me than what is on the tv. I would advise any married couple to try finding at least one or two shows that you both like to watch together and invest in a DVR so if you both want to watch different shows that are on at the same time, you can take turns.

    • Maggie Reyes says

      Thanks Elizabeth! Agree! We love watching shows together on the DVR and pausing to discuss our opinions and thoughts! Thanks for reading. XO

    • DON AND FRANCES says

      we have been married fifty two years this past april. love to sit in the room while she reads and I look both at her and the tv, and sometimes we both comment about what is going on around us with the world. we talk about our family and how they’ve turned out . I sometimes in a joking way that if we ever should part , that iming packing my bags and going with her. I get a good laugh and the best smile from her that one could ever see. I love her dearly, and I feel she loves me also in the same way.


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